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Ungrateful Person: Understanding the Traits and Impact of Ingratitude

Gratitude is the social glue that binds us, at work and at home. It fosters trust, respect for one another, and emotional well-being. Ingratitude erodes those foundations, resulting in emotional, physical, and geographic distance, dissatisfaction, and conflicts. By definition, an ungrateful person is someone who fails to acknowledge or appreciate the kindness, effort, or support of others. This article provides an overview of the characteristic traits of an ungrateful person, the causes, and consequences of ungratefulness, and suggested approaches to constructively dealing with ungrateful people. 

Characteristics of an Ungrateful Person

There are specific common indicators that can easily be seen as behaviors of ungrateful people. These include: 

• The Sense of Entitlement

They have a sense that something is owed to them. They feel deserving and want the special treatment or benefits and take kindness from others as a given. 

• A Lack of Acknowledgment 

They may rarely, if ever, say "Thank you" or show appreciation, even in situations when it is warranted. 

• Critical over Compliments 

They often pick apart what you do with a critique or complaint rather than focusing on the good in what someone has done for them. This can make people feel unappreciated. 

• Self-Centeredness

Their needs and views will always reign supreme in any situation, regardless of the efforts made by others. 

• Emotional Detachment  

These people will show little to no amount of emotional response or empathy when someone goes out of their way to help or support them. 

Psychological and Social Factors 

People are not always demonstrably ungrateful because they intend to be. Sometimes social and psychological factors can force some people to be ungrateful. 

Upbringing and Social Models: A person raised in an environment that does not value or demonstrate gratitude may not recognize how to demonstrate gratitude. 

Narcicism Destroying Narcisist: A person with narcissism may simply believe that they are entitled to doing favours and therefore do not feel that they are responsible for reciprocating or recognizing. 

Mental Illness or Effective Difficulty: A person with a mental illness may find it difficult to recognize anything good in life so being able to access or show gratitude will be hard. 

Emotional factor moderation: Some cultures moderates physical expression, modesty, and/or expressing emotion and therefore emotional expression such as gratitude which would create barriers. 

Implications of Ingratitude 

Ingratitude can be contagious. 

An ungrateful person can influence not only the observing beneficiary Seer but any person who benefits from the ungrateful being. 

contexts: 

• In Relationships: A lack of gratitude creates resentment, emotional fatigue, and loss of trust. Partners, friends, or family members will feel de-valued and ultimately withdraw. 

• In the Workplace: When employees, or leaders, do not appreciate contributions from other employees: morale is low, teamwork suffers, and turnover is high. 

• On the Individual: Interestingly, ungrateful individuals are often unhappier and more disconnected to others. Research from the field of positive psychology has shown that being grateful increases happiness, lowers stress, and can help strengthen relationships in which closeness and connection are a goal. 

How to Handle Ungrateful People 

Dealing with ingratitude, when it arises, requires a combination of empathy, boundaries, and assertiveness with regards to communication. 

• Model Gratitude: Show what being grateful looks like. Sometimes if we persevere in modeling behaviours, we have the power to affect another's behaviours. 

• Set Boundaries: If someone is repeatedly ungrateful for your help, it is healthy to limit what you share without them acknowledging what you do or have done. 

• Be Open: Share what their behaviours invoke in you. For example, "I feel unappreciated when my help does not get acknowledged." Use "I" statements. 

• Check Expectations: Not everyone will respond to your kindness in the way you were hoping. You are welcome to be of assistance without attaching yourself to the outcome. 

• Invest in the Appreciate: You can expend energies on people in your life whom are ungrateful; however, it may be wise to invest that energy into a relationship which is reciprocal in respect and appreciation. 

Fostering Gratitude 

Gratitude can be taught and modeled, and practice can help instill it. Encouraging children to be thankful to one another, recognizing colleagues in the workplace, or making gratitude habitual in our lives can gradually transform a culture of ungratefulness into a culture of acknowledgment and appreciation.

It is hard to deal with someone who is ungrateful. It can sap your energy and fill you with sadness. However, knowing what the behavior stems from may help with empathy and show you how to deal with it emotionally. Gratitude is not just a courtesy, it is a powerful thing that connects us as people, friends, family members, and community. If we acknowledge ungratefulness and address it, we make space for a culture that is more connected, and helps us all feel more respected.